You've Got It Together

You've got it together. Your whole life is ahead of you. You can hardly wait to . . .

• Start your new job
• Go look for a place of your own
• Meet the man of your dreams
• Buy that cute dress

So often these are the feelings you have as you launch your adult life, but soon self-doubt seeps in as you . . .

• Realize you don't have passion for your job
• Can't afford the place where you want to live
• Broke up with your boyfriend
• Never like the way you look

Is this how it is? After all that hype, why is it so hard? By now you were supposed to:

• Know what you want to do and have the job to show for it
• Have enough money to buy the things you always desired
• Be in a serious relationship
• Be sexy and cute and smart and have designer clothes.

You realize you've been under tremendous pressure. No wonder you've felt so down in the dumps. How could anyone do all those things you thought you were supposed to do? But the pressure is insidious and invisible. You don't even know it's there. It just keeps you moving forward, faster and faster. You never thought you were one who would "follow the rules." You've always been your own person, following your own path. How did it happen that you got caught in this undertow?

Who Cares What You're Supposed to Do? helps you break free from the trap of "following the rules." It shows you how easily we all get pulled in by societal expectations to accomplish certain goals in our twenties and early thirties.

Life is full of surprises and uncertainties. Once you get free of thinking you should have it all figured out by some magic age, you can create your own rules, and pick and choose how you want to live your life.

Copyright © 2004 Victoria C. Dickerson, Ph.D.